American dating romance
American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.
The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.
Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.
Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together.
Prepare your own list to shine during dinners with family and friends. If you’re a man, get in the kitchen and start doing your bit.
Read the existentialists and as much boring French stuff as you can (Tip for you: the summaries on Wikipedia should suffice). We are obsessed with complicated words too (here are a few that you can use: gabegie, flavescent, lenifier. Men: take note, your French Valentine might not be as into it as you think.
But are dating apps really designed to promote long-lasting romance?
Take a look at these romantic restaurants in Paris for inspiration.
Champagne is the only acceptable drink to celebrate. The man is supposed to compliment the woman at every possible opportunity. Coffee won't cut it, especially on Valentine's Day.
And if you are not having it at least a few times a month, well, he/she is probably having it elsewhere, and everybody will understand why. If you decide to get married, you might need to get married twice (with the same person, obviously): once at the town hall, once at your local church. If you’re hiding another lover from your Valentine, perhaps don’t borrow their phone to book your Uber ride back from the date, or they could end up finding out more than you intended, as one man recently found out. For example, never approach a French woman on the metro or the street, save it for the soirées.
Having sex is part of we French call ‘conjugal duty’. Take a look at the places to avoid on the 14th of February before making a touristic blunder. French women aren’t easy to please, and can have quite specific requirements of their prospective partners.